Handing over the keys to the car is a scary thing for a lot of parents. Even though laws say a teen can get their driver’s license at 16, it doesn’t mean that everyone is ready at the same time. Parents often wonder if their teen is ready to drive yet, but the key is expectations. Here are some ways you can make and use expectations to tell if they are ready and how you can help them along.
There are several expectations that States require students to meet before they can get their learner’s permit or their driver’s license. There are tests to take, forms to fill out, and hours to complete. The government expects everyone behind the wheel of a car to know a certain amount of laws before they can legally drive a vehicle. Driver’s education curriculums are full of information that potential drivers all need to know to help them.
As the parent, you should set your own expectations that need to be met too. Some parents require their students to be on the honor roll or meet their curfew every night for a set amount of time. These show that your teen is ready, mature, and responsible enough to handle more responsibility by driving. If your teen is ready to drive, they will be willing to demonstrate it through meeting your expectations. Here are some tips on creating them.
Be fair and clear. Set expectations early enough that they can focus on reaching them before it is time to get a permit. Talk to them and make sure they understand what they should do and the reasoning behind it. Make expectations that are realistic and achievable.
Encourage them. Let your teen know that you are in their corner. Give them praise and encouragement. Also try providing opportunities to succeed. If you are out driving together, point out things they are doing right.
Correct only as needed. Everyone makes mistakes when driving, especially when learning. Give loving correction without being overbearing or quick to yell. If you are stressed out, it will only add tension to the entire experience for both of you.
After the License
Once your teen has met all expectations and gets their permit and license, it doesn’t end. Teens should know that you still have expectations for them. Being responsible is important to following the laws and knowing they are safe. Let them know your family rules for the car, their curfew, and any other expectations you have for them. Check up on your teen often and let them know you are watching and care about their well-being.
Another thing to remember is that you are still their driving teacher and advisor. Keep the communication lines open so that they can come to you at any time. Always be ready to answer any questions they might have or address any concerns. Remember, your teen is still learning the ropes of driving, and no one wants them to succeed more than you do. Keep encouraging and loving them along the way.